I just wanted people to be nice to me, men to be nice to me, and when you are pretty and angry and lost you date older guys because they have cars and money and your dad moved out and your mom is busy crying so you go with them. And my mom did her best, but when you have this Tasmanian Devil of a daughter who screams fuck you and pierces her nose and sneaks out of her room and you are just trying to work to put mashed potatoes on the table (because potatoes are cheap–they are still cheap) there isn’t a lot you can do.And you work long hours and cry a lot and your daughter has a bedroom with a window and a balcony and she is a quiet ghost who waits on the corner for a car to pick her up.
Is it because, with age, we care more about a relationship’s potential longevity, rather than just instant sexual gratification?
Or perhaps we become more acutely aware of the impermanence of beauty after experiencing our own signs of aging?
The other day, at a Fashion Week party, my friend Alan and I stood against a wall, scanning the room for hot people, as you do.
“It’s weird,” he said contemplatively, staring into a sea of models.
In a recent column at The Atlantic's web site, Hugo Schwyzer asks us to consider, "What would happen if men stopped chasing much younger women?
" I suppose this is an interesting, if impractical question.To back up his thesis that this isn't a reflection of a "natural" desire on men's part, Schwyzer cites a 2007 study done in Sweden (though linking only to an article in The Economist that briefly mentions the study). Here's the first paragraph of their discussion at the end of the paper: "We show that the offspring count of both men and women who did not change their partner (i.e.the other parent) between the birth of their first and last child increased, .Or, more simply, have we just realized that dating freakishly beautiful people isn’t all it's cracked up to be?A female friend once told me, “It’s always best to date attractive men, but not attractive that everyone’s constantly trying to jump on their dick, because that’s just stressful.” The sentiment actually made a lot of sense to me.Leaving high school to move away from home and attend college where my older boyfriend followed right behind me and made very sure I was never more than two steps away and nothing my mother did could ever stop that.