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It’s hard to meet a master of body language (or, to quote Eastman, “nonverbal communication”) and not worry about what you’re doing with your hands, how solid your eye contact is, and whether he’s reading your mind. For eight months, Eastman has been teaching singles on the dating scene to read minds, too, and to use their bodies to send clear signals. ” by playing with the buttons on his shirt, looking at his lips, or softening the tone of your voice just so.
For example, you can send the message, “If you touch me, I will gag,” by slowly moving away each time your date invades your personal space. Those moves might sound primitive, but on a first or second date, it’s difficult to say exactly what you’re thinking. Eastman’s theory is that if you’re not fluent in body language, you’re likely to give your date the wrong idea, to inadvertently act uninterested when you’re interested or vice versa, to be left mystified by someone’s vanishing act, even though he was telling you the whole time—wordlessly, of course—that he couldn’t wait to get away.
In social situations, he often found himself paralyzed, imagining worst-case scenarios about what would happen if he made the wrong move or said the wrong thing.
So he learned to read people to discern what they wanted from him.
Modern dating is one big (quoting Led Zeppelin here) communication breakdown.
But The Dating Workshop and Eastman’s other classes, including Body Language Explained and Deception Detected, are designed to help.Eastman, however, didn’t come to the study of body language to get laid.He says he developed his proficiency in nonverbal communication during childhood as an adaptive response to his anxiety.Overall, they report that there is often little incentive for men to date and even less for them to consider long-term commitments.In a previous article, I put forward the notion that individuals were not "afraid" to date—rather they simply did not have sufficient incentive to do so (see here).Welcome back to The Attraction Doctor Last week, I discussed why women can't find a "good" man (here).