Neither Andy nor I doubted whether or not we’d be willing to endure those six weeks apart while we were dating, because by that point neither one of us had any interest in being single or dating someone else.(In fact, he proposed the day after we were reunited!
Two of my friends are in dating relationships that will soon be tested by a long period of separation.
I can relate to their frustration and dread over the upcoming goodbye, because my husband Andy and I have had to endure being apart for long periods of time twice - once for six weeks when we were dating, and once for five months after getting married.
We judge the success of our time with the Lord by what we get out of it, by what we remember, by what we’ve learned.
We consider our devotions a success when we learn some new fact about God or about the Bible.
We admire those who have great biblical knowledge or a great memory for the facts of what they’ve read.
We get discouraged and want to give up when we feel like we have learned nothing through that day’s devotions. What if the point of devotions is less about learning about God and more about spending time with God?
It is easy to overlook and not address or discuss the important things that may raise concerns as you cultivate this relationship which you envision moving from dating to engagement and, hopefully, marriage.
As Christians, we should be intentional and deliberate in how we date, ensuring that we protect each other's hearts and emotions.
I have composed two lists of questions below (one for men and one for women), based on some of the conversations I have had with both dating couples and single people.
They are not listed in any specific order of importance, because I believe they are all important questions to consider.
Aileen and I have never been too good at date nights.