More likely, they might express resentment, hostility and mistrust toward you.
In fact, they may very well view your presence as an annihilation of their hope that their parents might one day reconcile.
Wait for them to come to you.”The advice came from my dear friend Jennifer, who has a stepfamily of her own and understands that it takes time and patience to blend and bond. Months later, in a quiet moment, I told the girls as much, and let them know it’s OK to have any range of feelings about all this.
But life had gotten busy, and for a few days I was swiping right on Coffee Meets Bagel without my normal due diligence. Both seemed nice, but I was having trouble keeping them... Like a puppy dog, I wanted to cuddle up to them and play, but I remembered her advice not to overwhelm them, so I pretended like this was all no big deal, and tried to find the feline inside.
Getting involved with a divorced man means that you are accepting the challenges of a complex family structure.
The chances of his adult children readily accepting you are actually quite slim.
However, there are a few things childless men should keep in mind when deciding whether they are ready to date a woman with a child, or children. Figure out if you like or want kids BEFORE dating a woman with children.
When you are single and looking to mingle, you generally will not hurt anyone if you start dating “just to see where things go.” Plenty of men do this all the time.Besides the importance to the father-child relationship, this time spent together is necessary in repairing any damage the divorce may have caused, advises licensed counselor Mary Murphy, who holds a doctorate in social work.Try not to make alternate plans with him for those special times.Keep the relationship between the two of you, and when marriage becomes a consideration, have him introduce you to the kids.Think of it from a child’s perspective: Dad has a new girlfriend for a few months and then she goes away.While the age of the child plays a factor, if you’re not looking for anything serious, you shouldn’t play the “I’ll figure it out” game with a ready-made family.