Going on a date and not knowing the rules because the last date you went on was 20 years ago, can be a really scary thing. Weeding through hundreds of guys who probably want to make a suit of my skin, trying to find that one gem who not only is not a serial killer, but who also chews with his mouth closed can be daunting.
My last date before I got married was at a time when people didn’t have computers or smart phones. Only doctors had mobile phones and they were as big as a shoe box! And which of the trillions of online dating sites should you use? The first time I saw the commercial for that, I thought it was an skit! When I first got divorced I felt like I couldn’t do anything. I didn’t know how to change my furnace filter, change the string on the weed whacker or fix my washing machine when it started leaking all over.
However, if you wait too long, some things happen that make dating more difficult.
After some time, you start to enjoy the freedom that comes with being on your own. If you don’t feel like making your bed, there’s no one there to get mad at you for it.
I think it’s important to take time to heal from divorce.
People need time to adjust to the major changes that divorce brings: different living situations, moving, financial struggles, and having to share time with your kids. It’s the death of your hopes, dreams, and beliefs that you will spend the rest of your life with your spouse. It’s wise to wait a year or so, so that you can evaluate your life, take inventory of who you are, change the things about you that you don’t like, and discover what exactly you’re looking for in a partner.
Divorce is one of the most traumatic events we go through, and when we reach the proverbial "light at the end of the tunnel," many of us feel that little spring in our step and start to think about dating again.
So how can you start off on the right foot when you're just beginning to dip your toes back into the dating pool?
I’ve been divorced for five years and I only recently started dating again.
Now that I have, I’ve come to the realization that I waited too long.
Wikipedia defines infatuation as: the state of being completely carried away by unreasoning passion or love; addictive love.